The Biblical Courtship Blog

Top 10 Questions for a Potential Suitor

As members of ChooseCourtship.com have began corresponding, several parents have emailed me asking what questions they should ask a prospective suitor.
I’ve compiled this short list as a quick overview of Doug Wilson’s excellent post on the subject here.

1. Do you attend worship every Lord’s Day?

2. Tell me about your spiritual background. What was your church upbringing like? At what point did your spiritual experience become real to you? Have you ever had a period of spiritual rebellion?

3. What is your relationship like with your dad? With your mom?

4. Describe your parents’ marriage for me. What are the most valuable lessons you have you learned from your parents?

5. What do you believe God has called you to do vocationally? Ten years from now, what you believe you will be doing?

6. What steps have you taken to reach that goal?

7. How many jobs have you had in your life, and what did your bosses think of you? Were those bosses sorry to see you go, or glad to see you go?

8. Have you ever been in any kind of trouble with the law?

9. If I were to drop in to visit you at your apartment this afternoon, what would I find? A together sort of place? A clean place? The abomination of desolation?

10. Is there anything in your sexual history that I need to know about? Failed marriage? Live-in girl friend two years before you became a Christian? Live-in girl friend six months after you became a Christian? Got three girls pregnant in high school?

So what do you think? What questions do you ask a prospective suitor?
- Dave

Dave Bulthuis is the Senior Director of ChooseCourtship.com

 
What is Courtship? Have we lost our focus? Much has changed since I Kissed Dating Goodbye first rocked the evangelical world in 1997.  Recently Joshua Harris posted a clarification on dating and courtship, challenging readers to re-examine the core message of the book.  He outlines the main points as,

 ”Love: What is true love, and how does its power make it possible for you to enjoy lifelong, meaningful friendships?         

 Purity: In an age of compromise, how do we cultivate outward modesty and inward purity? What should our ultimate motivation be for living a life of purity, and why should it be a priority in your life?

Trust: Singleness is not a time for watching life go by, but a chance to develop your gifts and use this season—however long it is to serve the Lord, while trusting God for his good timing for romance.“ 

We should take a moment, and reconsider these principles  as we seek to honor God in our relationships. Read the rest on Josh’s Blog